Revenge and Forgiveness

Neural Pathways are activated in Forgiving. 

Forgiveness has two ethical antonyms, Moral Relativism and Moral Absolutism, the former Cultural, the latter Universal. The commonality is that Forgiveness is not only a Free-Will as previously thought, but the outcome of Brain-circuitry, mainly through Emotional Amyloid Activation. Since the Amygdala is part of the Autonomous Nervous System, voluntary Activation turns into Overdrive with inconsiderate, potentially harmful, vengeful consequences towards the offender. Any feeling of Revenge must be addressed to Professionals who will contact Law-Enforcement, should the threat become intentional. The new definition of Forgiveness is letting go of Revenge. Past Hurt will lurk indefinitely in long-term memory however, erasing Revenge promotes Peace and Recovery.

So, can we still talk of Forgiveness in lay terms?

On a further level, has Forgiveness ever existed? Surely not, as redefined these days in psychology. Christianity has always defined Forgiving as  “Commanding your offender to God”, to signify that it is ultimately His exclusive responsibility. “Commanding” is all He asks from us, yet even Commanding seems insurmountable when we are consumed by Revenge.
By refusing that context, we have coined the stereotype “I will never forgive!”, whereas Commanding would be the correct term.

Basically, both psychology and religion are affirming the same concept: Relinquishing resentments.

Moral Relativism vs Moral Absolutism

The practice is aggravated by two different cultural models: Moral Relativism and Moral Absolutism. The terminology speaks for themselves. Relativism is an individual choice. Absolutism is a universal choice, leaving no room for personal opinion, a dogma linked primarily to Biblical teachings, the way to go for practicing Christians. Relativism is primarily of Agnostic origin, leaving free interpretation of what is right or sinful, strongly cultural. 
No judgement here, you know what works best for you, the goal is Relinquishing Anger.

The Brain Processing of Anger

MRI scans have shown the formation of new Neural Pathways in subjects during Commanding, a process named Neuroplasticity, meaning Brain-Rewiring.
Letting go of Revenge showed decreased Amyloid activity, promoting Emotional Regulation and Empathy in a general sense of wellbeing.
Conversely, angry subjects showed an overreacting Amygdala, resulting in feelings of counter-hurting, violence and generalized rage.
I understand Revenge doesn’t heal overnight, though Willingness is a start.

Let go of your anger

New Neural pathways start forming the very moment we are set to relinquish, making the journey gradually easier.
Everybody can do it, once we understand the Benefits over Retaining.
Counseling may be mandatory in heavy traumatized patients in the initial stages.
Family and friends should be empathetic and encouraging, avoiding unnecessary pressure. Giving testimony is the most powerful tool, Evidence is never triggering and strongly engaging.

Overall, be a good Listener and Witness.

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Buffering vs Multitasking

Buffering has multiple meanings. 

In Mental Health, it refers to positively Tricking the brain.
When all attempts fail, we are left wondering about how legitimately “cheat subconsciously” an inattentive brain.
This is Buffering in psychology.
The practice may seem unethical at first glance, whereas it ultimately benefits subjects with Attention Deficits.

ADHD is the primary symptom taken into account in Attention Deficits.
The ADHD brain never relents by processing multiple thoughts at once, not so differently from neurotypical Multitasking.
The challenge is, the neurotypical acknowledge the inadequacies of multitasking, though ADHDers fail in long-term Memory Storage while excel in short-term Information Storage.
Unfortunately, we have seen that Information is quickly forgotten.

Premium Learning is storing permanently one Memory at the time.

Stimulant medication is the first intervention in ADHD, though with its limitations: Stimulants wear off after 6/8 hours average, resulting in inattentiveness’ Rebound symptoms.

Psychologists are finding extra evidence of Music in neural activity.

Music connects the body with the mind, activating Motor Neurons, with a high potential of Rewiring, Music Therapy. 

Dance is the most visible expression of music, since it stimulates nerves at subconscious level without interfering with attention. Quite the contrary, Music proves to enhance concentration.
We can communicate through music.

In ADHD, neutral techno/upbeat sounds would remove distractions, contrary to the logic of multitasking in the neurotypical.
The reason Music does not account for Multitasking and Distraction is due to the Subconscious perception of the brain, in so doing, acting as Cerebral-vacuum for Conscious Intrusive Thoughts.

The trial was performed in ADHD students, showcasing Subject-Focus and long-term Memory Storage in a musical context.
In addition, Study-participants reported Reward and Relaxation.

I tried the method on myself successfully, henceforth I’m confidently confirming the efficacy of Music Buffering in ADHD.
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Thank you and stay tuned.



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Exploitation films and dedicated fanbases in Autism/ Christiane F.

Autistics have a hard time moving on. We are often stuck in time.

Fixations are common for autistics .

Everybody has a song, a film, a concert, that marked their life however, it is easier for neurotypicals to move on, whereas autistics tend to get stuck to the first impacting event in their life.

My ‘fixation’ is British singer and actor David Bowie.

I grew up in the 80/90s with him and he s still considered the most influential glam-rock artist of all times 9 years from his passing.

Many contemporary artists carry on his legacy still, I can’t enjoy them.
I call that fixation, ‘paranoia’ in medical.

Is paranoia an illness or a passion?
Are Elitarian Aspies-ASDs ndr- autistic or not?
Aspies have a specific fixation.
In my opinion, they are not autistic.

My belief is supported by the scientific community that encourages the discontinuation of the ‘high/low functioning Autism’ definitions.
Latest research is headed towards Autism and ASD as two unrelated disorders.

But back to the article s topic: Cult movies.

I adore to death the 1981 film ‘Christiane F.’
Needless to say, David Bowie is featured in the movie.
I can watch it endlessly.
All my emotions are re-lived in that true story: a denied youth, desolation…
I don’t praise the destructive behavior of the characters involved in heavy drugs but the strong sense of camaraderie.

A movie, a song, can catch one’s momentum.
I identified in that movie.
Nothing wrong with it as far as you can move on.

I’m trapped in my past.
And I can’t get out.


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Self-awareness in Neurodivergence

Victimization and Criticism stop us from Achieving.

Self-awareness and Acceptance are the antonyms of Victimization and Criticism.
The latter are the main obstacles in ADHD, although common in Autism to a lesser extent.

Autism and ASD are two distinct disorders sharing some traits.

Autism normally requires institutionalization.
ASD was formerly known as Asperger Syndrome and is highly co-morbid with NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
The two conditions are offensively referred to as ‘Low-functioning/High-functioning Autism’, a topic I’ll discuss extensively in future articles.
Just so you know, there is only One diagnosis of Autism thus far.
ASD doesn’t require institutionalization.
I have an autistic institutionalized brother, don’t try to challenge me with populist rhetoric, I’ve been ridiculed big time on the subject, I don’t stand the test anymore, I know all too well.
Forgive the emotional outburst, I live only for my brother and wife.
My parents are long gone, the pain is often unbearable.

To date, I score predominantly on ADHD, and I am grateful for my strong empathy.
Helping others is my biggest motivation and reward.

I don’t get along well with pathological ‘know it all’ ASDers. 
Their concept of friendship is Convenience: if they need your help, they become best buddies, once achieved their goals they discard you on the spot without resentment. 
They generally excel financially, henceforth better off with addressing their obsessions to expensive life-coaches on a “see you later”, non-committal fashion.
No offence intended, I just speak from personal experience.

Commitment is very along the lines with self-awareness and acceptance. 
One doesn’t become aware in the blink of an eye. Difficult task in ADHD. 

Professionals have coined the expression “Staying on Task”.
Why are awareness and acceptance fundamental to staying on task?

The ADHD brain is constantly wandering around, stimulant medication is a key element to achieve awareness. Awareness enhances Acceptance, Motivation and Self-esteem in succession.

Motivation is the driving force behind Reward.
People who are eager to start a new workday are a rarity.
The solution is seeing the reward at the end of the day, Motivation.
If you can’t see the light, seek reward in volunteering, but don’t enter the mindless pursuit, Addiction.

Acceptance is of big help for patience, reward doesn’t come straight.
As far as you try, you are never a failure.
The more you try, the more you’ll develop Self-esteem.

Don’t be a victim.



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Bullying of Neurodivergent

Autistics are still bullied. Teachers must tackle and recognize neurodiversity in its first manifestations.

Autistics are often victims of bullying in school.

There is still no anti-Bullying law, although schools are taking serious actions, recently.

Back in my day, bullying was totally ignored and perpetrated by teachers themselves.
That made me feel an underachiever.
I wish I was born 20 years later.

My Christian faith was not that strong back then.

My worry is not being accepted by young generations.
I wish I was appreciated by my young personality, not my biological age.

I’m full of initiative, I just need people to pave the way for me.









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Nervous breakdown

Is Burnout a symptom or synonymous with Brokenness?

Medical jargon is being updated to unprecedented extents, complicit Online Medicine. Nowadays, people consult Medical sites prior to visiting doctors. Online diagnoses are Medical frauds.

Burnout is the result of long-term stress.

Cortisol is the main stress-hormone released by the adrenal glands in response to fear, logically of calming properties.
Quite the contrary: Cortisol damages Dendrites, thin filaments attached to neurons involved in memory.
‘Dendritic Retraction’, the shriveling up of dendrites with consequent severe memory loss in chronic stress, is the outcome.

The function of Cortisol is to erase fearful emotions, nonetheless, it has proven a dysfunctional non-selective hormone by disrupting all spatial memory.
Cognitive Impairment is the ultimate result.

Keeping a regular sleep-routine remains the first preventive measure.
There is no specific cure yet for Memory Decline.
Prevention associated to a healthy lifestyle, always provides the best protection from disease.




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Social Narratives

Some new types of therapy deprive neurodivergents of their dignity for conformity through ethically questionable methods.

Social narratives are a kind of repetitive behavioral therapy used for subjects with severe learning disabilities.
Although results are quite satisfactory, I personally associate a certain extent of humiliation to it.
Repetition is always synonymous with poor performance.
We’re talking of mere repetition of actions to be mindlessly memorized and carried out automatically for the purpose of conforming to neurotypical behavior.
I understand there are circumstances where standards are to be met either for safety or consideration, despite believing in more humane approaches.

Social Narratives are what was formerly called ‘Role-playing’ in a pre-Internet society.
We re starting to realize how badly the social media have enslaved us.
New vocabulary invented by technology is introduced daily.
I’m not against ameliorating syntax, but what we’re doing now is destroying languages: we pronounce words individually, grammar is off the charts, all for the sake of media.

What differentiates ‘Social Narratives’ from ‘Role-playing’?
The outcome is basically the same.
The byproduct is different: with Social Narratives we create functional humans by erasing thought-processing.
With ‘Role-playing’ we can achieve conformation to non-erratic behavior by stimulating thought-processing.

Now, everybody has a dignity, even the cognitive impaired.
Thought-processing is dignified.
Depriving a person of their dignity equals Cloning, the frightening new frontier of Globalization.

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Mental Brokenness

Neurodivergence from a traumatic perspective.

Brokenness is rooted in the past, although we experience it in the present.

Nowadays, psychology is abused by unqualified, self-proclaimed therapists and life-coaches, primarily accounting for former Social Workers with basic skills in Crisis Intervention, their first appeal to many NDs who lost trust in Mental Health Professionals.

Medical insurances don’t cover these holistic practices for lack of scientific evidence, yet the law allows them to operate as in private facilities.

There are four responses to brokenness as described by psychologists:
Denial, Distraction, Sadness and Despair, ultimately culminating in Mercy-seeking.
Charlatans know it well: they sell Mercy.
Why not Professionals?
In this instance, we must enter the sensitive field of Medical Ethics.

Doctors must show empathy without getting emotionally involved with patients.
Have you ever wondered why doctors can’t treat their family members…?
Unfortunately, some Mental Health Professionals fail to compartmentalise these two skills, in so becoming apathetic and encouraging patients to look for unhealthy alternatives.

Denial and Distraction have a lot in common, the former being a Delusion, the latter a Coping strategy.
Eventually, Sadness takes over.
The last stage of Sadness is Despair.

Brokenness has a different chemistry from Clinical Depression.
MDD is characterized by hopelessness and it’s not necessarily post-traumatic.
Brokenness is always the outcome of past Hurt, a form of ‘mystical PTSD’: sufferers have normally a solid faith that keeps them going, but not always in the right direction. 
They’re easily lured in search of Mercy.

Mercy has multiple implications for the mentally ill: it is the Longing to be heard, to be healed, for empathy.
Very few can find real mercy in holistic practices, if not just for the fees…

I wish Professionals would show empathy to their clients, in addition to coldly prescribing the latest treatment.

That could make the difference.

Neurodiversity can manifest overly introverted or extroverted. 
It can be upsetting to the NT who must put in a lot of effort to empathize with the ND by Listening non-judgementally, through impersonating into their mindset.
It is no secret that the mentally unstable crave for Attention.

We hear all the time about celebrities with multiple diagnoses of BPD, Bipolar, ADHD, ASD……, eventually claiming of having been misdiagnosed, nonetheless a component of the show-business for glamour, take it with a large grain of salt, I’m yet to see a neurotypical celebrity.

Some neuroscientists regard Psychiatry as pseudoscience struggling to keep a foothold, before getting inevitably embodied into Neurology.
Thankfully, psychiatrists know a good deal of neurology, they are MDs with a solid pharmacological orientation.
I’m positive about the integration with brain-circuitry oriented Neurology.






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Too much at stake

The aftermath of happy memories.

Too much at stake is a cry for help.
This week I have too much at stake.

It is possibly the worst state of mind to me: I feel out of touch, I can’t cope, I’m not able to multitask, I lack support and diversions, visual representations trigger me, sleep is not resting.

The Past sucks my happiness, I wish I could erase it permanently.
I dread memories since they belong to the past. The past is addictive like a recreational drug: the euphoria is always followed by crashing. Unfortunately, memories can’t be erased naturally.
I’m disassociating.

I knew it was going to happen. 

I couldn’t refrain from watching a documentary about my country in the hope of the euphoric reaction into bringing up happy memories.
It worked just fine while watching, only to be followed by unbearable nostalgia the next day.
I pretend to be there by detaching from reality.
It’s scary and draining.
My concentration swings dramatically between locations.

I can’t wait for the second episode tonight since it’s a five episode’ series.
It will be a spark of adrenaline and excitement, a temporary relief, an addiction.
The nostalgia will keep building up.
It will be a miserable week.

I have no options: my neurotypical wife loves my country and wants to watch with me in the capacity of commentator.
A typical example of co-dependency.I know how she craves Europe.

How long will it take for me to recover?
I m lucky to see my psychiatrist next week, that will help some…
Disassociating is not the solution.

Again, my dear autistic friends, choose carefully which means of entertainment work best for you.

And most importantly, keep in mind that adrenaline rushes are always followed by the deepest crashes.

It doesn’t pay off.

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Self-punishment

We know little of Self-harm. The main dilemma remains whether it is a conscious or subconscious act. It is generally dismissed as OCD, a non-specific condition itself.

Self-harm is not a diagnosis, it is a compulsion.
OCD is a co-morbid diagnosis.
‘Co-morbid’ means ‘underlying, multiple’.In turn, ‘underlying’ means ‘hiding’ in popular language.
We’re naturally unaware of hidden entities.
This would be eloquent to classify Self-harm as a subconscious action, yet OCD sufferers are fully aware of their irrational rituals still, unable to resist them.
Abating Anxiety is the established general consensus.
What goes against human psychology, is why Pain would abate Anxiety.
Quite the opposite, Pain is a major trigger of Anxiety in neurotypical individuals.

I support the ‘Self-punishment’ theory.

Talking from a male perspective: all men know how to avoid razor cuts, although a large number can’t help with it.
Refraining requires Willingness.
Willingness requires Commitment.
Commitment is a conscious choice.
No man is willing to cut his face, unless masochistic, a perversion rather than illness.
Forget shaving-tutorials and safety-razors. In the right mindset, you won’t hurt.

If I am in the throes of Guilt, I ll make a battlefield of my face even with the top state-of-the-art’ safety razor.
If I am gripped by Reward, I can clean-shave with a rogue kitchen knife without a single scar. I am in full control.

When I feel guilty, unproductive, underachieving, I can’t stop stroking my face until I consciously see the blood.
I know perfectly well that I am going to hurt myself.

Based on my personal experience, I concord that OCD doesn’t affect Awareness, it is the Compulsion to self-discipline through physical or emotional Pain.


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