Anger can take many forms, although it is oftentimes the result of trauma and abuse.

Anger is very individual.

To me, it s primarily Envy and Regret.

I regret growing up in the 80s when teachers didn’t have any mental-health training to recognise Autism and ADHD. 

I envy today’s children who are identified with learning disabilities in early life and put on special-needs education.

Back in the day, you were put on abuse….

I’ll never forget the trauma my entire life.


Gaining trust is challenging for neurodivergents. We are often misunderstood. It is vital setting boundaries and responsibilities in relationships between neurotypicals and neurodivergents.

My wife often tells me that I shout.
It’s not shouting for me but mirroring emotions.

I’ve been shouted at all my life.

I never get emotional with the purpose of offending.
Raising the voice is my means of protection.
My mother-in-law always shouts to my wife and I reply accordingly.

However, my wife doesn’t want me to get involved.

So here’s what happened today :
We go shopping-hate it but necessary- and I make the list as usual. 
I’m good at making lists.

Once we arrive at the mall and take the basket from the car, I spot my mother-in-law s basket and get emotional by saying “Why didn’t you tell me we have to do the shopping for your mother?!” 
Her mother loves shopping… 
“Because we were going!”

We spent an extra hour shopping, consequently.

Arrived home, I collect the laundry since it was threatening rain: “It s still wet!” Emotional again: “But it’ll rain soon! I want to dispose of the laundry! Why can’t I?!” 
“Because you shout!”

I meant “Hurry, it will rain soon!”

From today, I decided not to do things on my own initiative.

I’ll leave it to you to comment.
No offence will be taken. 

I feel downgraded for my diversity.

It’s best for neurodivergents to let trusted people do the first step. 

Yesterday I relaxed with my wife after an emotional weekend.

You’ll remember my resolution of avoiding to start tasks on my own.
  ASD/ADHD vs Neurotypical Standards

The logic is, if my wife takes the initiative, I will comply without debates.
I’m anti-conflict by nature. 

I confess, it s not easy to keep the mouth shut.
Even more being passive.
After all, I am the neurodivergent.

I don’t suggest anymore what to eat, what to watch, etc.
I didn’t collect the laundry tonight like before, I ll help if she asks.
And most importantly, she won’t complain that it s still wet.

If marriage is compromising, even more so a neurodivergent one.


We are all unique and worthy. That can lead to confrontation. However, we can change confrontation to peaceful resolution with a funny sense of humor.

So I’ve been told I m not good at house-chores by my wife: men and women have different standards in house-chores.

Laundry is one of mine, a time-dependent chore.
I collect the laundry before sunset no matter what.
Besides, clothes don’t get any drier once the sun goes down and humidity up in Asia.

I proceed with folding the garments and put them in the drawers. My wife argues I should hang them indoors…no way I’m going to transform my room in a terrace! 

Who’s right or wrong?

I can’t discern from an autistic standpoint, I m eager to hear your thoughts.

I would like to hear from men and women together for an impartial opinion.

“I told you so” welcome, no offense intended, lol.

Who said autistics have no sense of humor?
Let’s have some fun, friends!



There are anti-bullying techniques. Do not underestimate yourself.

The Autonomous Nervous System is composed by the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Systems which literally FIGHT with each-other in Autism, whereas they BALANCE each-other in Neuro Normal Merit Standards.

The ‘Fight or Flee Sympathetic effect’ is predominant in Autism.
There’s little the Parasympathetic System can do once we’re upset.
Avoiding triggers is the option of choice.

What can we do when abused verbally?
The obvious answer would be ‘let go’…
How if we are already triggered?

Counter-validating: acknowledging the abuser.
What sounds bad for you, can be rewarding for them.
Bullies look for reward, play their game and disarm them.

This way, there’s no need to be defensive and they will be displaced.
In turn, they will acknowledge your standpoint.
A win-win tactic.

I’m working on that.

You can do it.

Autistics are often misunderstood. That can lead to verbal abuse and meltdown. 

Most of the time, we just want to be heard. Listening without judgement takes time and effort though it abates conflict.

I suffer for others and I am misunderstood for that.
People think I want to be always in control.
It’s my way of prioritizing, I am confident with it.

I don’t like acting on instinct, if I know that I can do something on a better time, I opt to postpone.

People would get mad at me. 
In turn, I get mad. 

I want to be left alone when panicking. 
People would scold at me more instead, thinking to help.

We want to protect you! 
Don’t counterattack and we ll cool in few minutes!
We understand when people are distressed.

That will only add insult, resulting in rocking, mourning and undue sedation.

Respect Autistic Boundaries.

Our boundaries are different. 
In fact, I wouldn’t talk of boundaries but triggers.

I’m an extremely calm, patient, sociable, altruistic person. 

Only a handful of triggers can cause me to dissociate, like impulsiveness, lack of planning, change in routine still, I can adjust in due time and understanding.



Triggers are the precursors of Anger.

Anger is the first reaction to disappointment.

Yesterday I was very disappointed.
However, I’m well aware of the uselessness of anger.
Why do we get angry?
Anger is a Sympathetic Nervous System’ s reaction to stress and Triggers.
Triggers-Stress-Sympathetic Nervous System.
The bad news is that the Sympathetic Nervous System is Autonomous, meaning we have no control over it. 
The good news is that Triggers can be avoided.

Extreme Hot/Cold temperatures can cause Mental and Physical pain. They also affect how meds work. The best results are achieved by the right Combination of agonist and antagonist compounds under the circumstances.

Pain is always unpleasant, let’s not sugarcoat it, whether physical or emotional.
The neurodivergent may be more aware of Emotional Pain, whereas I believe in one pain alone.
Possibly, it can be exacerbated.
Weather is just one of the triggers that affects everyone.

Meteoropathy is not a diagnosis, it’s a condition related to weather changes that cause physical and mental illness in general. Related diagnoses range from Arthritis to Agoraphobia, in the initial stages. 

Arthritis is the tension of muscles in order to generate heat, mainly in the head, neck and shoulders. The downside is that muscle-tension causes inflammation and pain at nerve endings. Humidity is responsible to similar symptoms in hot weather.

Agoraphobia is the fear of open spaces, not necessarily a meteoropathy, though it can be exacerbated accordingly. 
This is the Mental component, nobody wants to go out in freezing or scorching temperatures.

The stereotype is that Dopamine works better in cold environments, Opioids in hot weather.
Unfortunately, idiosyncrasies are common.
Latest research shows improved efficacy of agonist and antagonist medications taken in conjunction.

The Autonomous Nervous System is virtually our worst enemy if not modulated by the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nervous Systems.
The agonist and antagonist pharmacological models work in synergy with the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Systems.

The myth of increasing the specific medication when ineffective is being challenged. We all have a ‘breaking point’, after which additional dosage is either expelled from the body by the Immune System, or accounts for overdose, unproductive and potentially fatal.

The winning strategy is abating the antagonists.
Freezing temperatures release dopamine in conjunction with melatonin, the notorious Sleep Hormone, pushing us into hibernation mode, therefore inhibiting dopamine, worst scenario for ADHD First Responders… the more dopaminergics we assume, the more melatonin is released!

Neural modulation makes the difference. 
GABA is a modulating neurotransmitter with the potential of blocking melatonin and dopamine in excess.
GABA is a natural, harmless chemical, acting on antagonistic signals by never depleting essential chemicals, available over the counter and my first choice.
Acetylcholine is another potent neuromodulator and main neurotransmitter present at all body s nerve endings. It comes in the form of Anticholinergic supplements.
Antihistamines are also effective for allergic reactions. 
Opioids are strong tranquilizers and painkillers, they give optimal protection in combination with stimulants. They are controlled substances, therefore require a prescription.
Our bodies react differently under the same circumstances.
Many factors are associated to Winter low-mood. Generally speaking, Light, Darkness, Cold climate. However, symptoms can vary individually.

With Winter and the shortest days of the year, comes punctually the dreaded ‘Hibernation-mode’.
This term summarizes the whole Winter symptomatology. Nobody is exempt, though in different ways, either positively or negatively.

Statistics show a significant number of individuals who dread Hot Weather.
It is scientifically proven that the Cold stimulates dopamine, good news for ADHDers and Emergency workers, to mention some.

Now, nobody is comfortable with Freezing temperatures, henceforth our Sympathetic Nervous System responds by releasing extra Melatonin from the Pineal Gland even in conditions of daylight, putting us in Hibernation-mode in order to warm up the body.

Melatonin is the Sleep-hormone normally released at night.
Problem is, the sun sets in late afternoon during Winter months, well before the end of the average Working Day, around 4pm globally.

Dopamine and Melatonin become antagonists in nature, one making us alerted, the other sleepy, no-doubt perfect for stay-at-home individuals with insomnia.
This group accounts for Winter lovers.

Altogether, I still favour Winter as a First Responder with ADHD. 
Sweltering Summers deplete me of dopamine fast through hyperhydrosis.
It goes without saying that Mild temperatures are ideal for all, a thing of the Past when we had 4 seasons. Nowadays, we only have Winter and Summer, putting tremendous pressure on the body.

Melatonin synthesis is oversimplified as the ‘sleep hormone released at night.’
In reality, it is one of the most complex mechanisms.
To start with, it is questionable whether Melatonin acts at hormone or neurotransmitter level, since it’s a byproduct of Serotonin.
Other neurotransmitters and pinealocytes are envolved, primarily Norepinephrine and GABA, typically antagonists: the former a trigger, the latter a modulator.
The Pineal gland receives and conveys messages to the SCN-Suprachiasmatic Nucleus-by Photoreception, the processing of Light and Darkness at retinal level: in the absence of Light, norepinephrine signals the SCN to release Melatonin, in the presence of Light the SCN secretes GABA which inhibits the release of Melatonin.

The SCN is permanently connected to the earthly 24 hrs day-cycle, thus determining the body s Circadian Rhythm regardless to light or darkness. 
People living at the Earth s poles know it all too well: Winters have permanent darkness, Summers permanent light. The pressure on the body and mind is extreme however, the body recognizes Noon and Midnight either in Winter or Summer.

The best remedy for Seasonal affective disorders is following the natural Circadian-Rhythm as strictly as possible.

Melatonin and GABA supplements are available over-the-counter and helpful for each season.


Replacing negative emotions with Self-care.

Rewiring works by Associations.
I’ve been talking extensively about Brain-Rewiring and how the therapy is being updated to Brain-Resetting.

Whilst sharing the same goals, Resetting works on Self-denial of the Past.
I support traditional Rewiring in that regard.
I’m not fond of any kind of pseudoscience, especially since it is strongly linked to New Age practitioners.

However, I’m not here to make judgements, yet staying up to date with Research.
Research is my view of pseudoscience in the expectation that it will qualify for approved Clinical Trials in the near term.

I came across an article recently, on how Associations work on Brain Rewiring.

So it summarizes: “Memories are stored permanently. Aggressive procedures, e.g. ECT, numb memories, they don’t erase them. The outcome is poor, with general amnesia as side-effect. Deactivated memories are reactivated by reliving a similar traumatic event.”

There is little literature on how Reset therapy claims to erase memories.
Not to mention the ethical implications.

Clinical Association works by associating bad memories with positive ones through an object, a song, a poem…
A lengthy therapy by all means, normally carried out in a group setting by licensed psychologists.
The first successful stories are coming to light.

Antidepressants can complement by abating synaptic resistance.
I will follow further developments in real time.

‘Self’ is a multifaceted concept.
The implications are either positive or negative.
In its most derogatory way, it is combined with Selfishness.
In its most emphatic way, with Self-esteem.

Both concepts would seem reminiscent of Me, Me, Me, the basic fundamental of Narcissism.
Narcissism is not to be confused with Self-care.
There are many references in the Bible about Self-care.
The following are the most popular:
“Love your neighbor as yourself “
“You cannot love your neighbor if you hate yourself“
“Wash your face often if you look tired”….

Jesus wants us to take care of ourselves.
“Self-denial” is often misunderstood as lack of Self-care.
What Jesus meant by “deny yourself and follow Me” is  “Use your talents for the needy”.  
God given Talents are part of Self-care.

Self-care is not only aesthetically pleasing, though spiritual too.
Rest best emphasizes Spiritual-care.
We can’t help our neighbor if we are tired.
Fatigue prevents Self-esteem.
In turn, we boost Self-esteem by Reward.

The whole wordy puzzle comes down to the popular  “give and take” saying, legitimately so, at the condition that Taking must not be directly addressed, we will receive Reward, oftentimes without noticing.

Expectation is hypocritical.
Taking alone, narcissistic.

Again, ‘thought-associating’ comes into play.
Imagine the amount of wonders that could materialize from transforming Narcissism into Altruism…
Clinical Narcissism-NPD-craves Reward.
It is not true that Narcissists lack empathy, they want to be rewarded first and foremost. They don’t want to compromise, the harsh side where  ‘thought-association’ works in due time.

‘Thought-association’ is the process of replacing negative emotions with pleasant feelings.
Everything but an easy and fast therapy, although proving successful.

Stimulant dopaminergic therapy is most effective in the initial phase, dopamine is the neurotransmitter responsible for Reward and kicks in from the first dose.
The next phase is ‘associating’ dopamine to real-life Unexpected Reward, the final stage of Self-renewal.

We can now talk of real altruistic ‘Give and Take’.
Everyone is unique as in the therapeutic timings.
What s for sure is the worthiness of the effort, it worked for my ADHD.
There’s nothing more addictive than helping our neighbor.


Autism is highly popularized these days between the rich and famous. Don’t be fooled, ASD, former Asperger Syndrome, is not Autism, though generically listed on the  ‘Functional Autistic Spectrum’.

The general consensus is that all Mental Illness originates from Anxiety, although Genetics are increasingly entertained.

That said, Trauma still tops the charts in Anxiety.

Trauma can be subconscious, since it can occur as early as birth.
PTSD is typically diagnosed in adulthood as result.

The fact of the matter is that the cause of Autism is not yet fully understood.
The traumatic environmental theory is subjective.
Every autistic is different. Showcase analysis is the most accurate way of studying the condition.

Could Autism have a correlation with Trauma?
Possibly. I firmly believe it s an illness whatsoever.

There’s no such thing like ´high-functioning autism´, a Personality Disorder referred to as ASD to date.

Autism is an individual dysfunctional medical diagnosis.

Let’s stop pretending.

Brain Circuits form fully at gestation. Autistics have defective brain circuitry.
Genes are inherited and the most accredited cause of Autism to date.
Once defective genes are discovered, brain circuits are already formed in the fetus.

Gene therapy will hopefully become the most promising treatment.