Irrational Beliefs in neurodivergence

The concept of addiction

Addictions are Irrational Beliefs, so-called Presumptions in psychology.
Latest findings suggest a distinct correlation between males and females’ onset.

Common causes of addiction

Generally speaking, the main agonists of Addiction are Idolatry, Visuals, Guilt, Relapse and Neurodivergence.
Idolatry and Visuals are related to the natural brain inclination to Curiosity and Imitation. Relapse and Guilt are part of the Recovery Process. Neurodivergence is associated with Vulnerability, Masking and Performance.
Addiction is synonymous with Innocent Presumption, Pride, Arrogance, Self-righteousness.
In brief, pathological Narcissism.
Substances or Lust become godlike Idols for the Addict.

Addictions in males and females

The male brain is visual. The female brain is emotional.
Physical attraction is the initial response of men towards women.
Mannerism comes first in women.
Eventually, these two feelings fuse together in neurotypical couples after the first meeting at face-value. This is an Healthy Imitation, so-called Complementary.

Love and Drug Addiction

The process is the same for addictive personalities, though the Fusion is detrimental to the female character: Physical attraction typically involves Lust and Pornography in the male character, who sees the female partner as Sex slave.
Same goes with substances: Imitation grows parallel to Intimacy.
Cinematography has been eloquent on the subject, with cult-movies the likes of ‘Christiane F.’ and ‘Toxic Love’ between the most popular, all exploring the connection between Love and Addiction.

Love is a Bond, either beneficially or destructively uniting.
Suffering is a component of Love: when we feel deeply connected, we want to share that experience. Addicts are often charismatic in their own ways, perceived as gifts. At this point, we are hooked. Just a female neurotypical minority, usually in their 30 s, therefore more selective and family oriented, would discern the inadequacy of a longtime relationship, either slipping-away or setting firm boundaries. Girls in their mid-20 s are not so smart, personality is not fully defined until 25. Imitation, a subcategory of Learning in Executive Function, takes over in the form of Role-model towards an older partner, combined with strong Camaraderie bordering Behavioral Idolization. The younger person sees the Highs of Addiction only, while failing to acknowledge the painful Withdrawal syndrome.
From their perspective, the addict carefully hides the Lows.
Addiction becomes the outcome of Successful Performance and Wellbeing, even more so for the Neurodivergent.
A vicious cycle.

Once again, the Amygdala is the main source of superior male  ‘Visuospatial skills’.
Visuospatial skills are the ability to turn Images entirely into Emotions.
The male Amygdala is larger in size and 100% activated by Visuals.
The female Amygdala is smaller. Only the left side is activated by Visuals, a more subtle analytic system.
To say, males see a body, females see body-traits, the latter definitely a plus in relationships and selection.
Conversely, males fare better in the battlefield and worse in Addictions.
Pornography is a powerful hook to men, highly destructive financially and socially, yet legal as for tobacco and alcohol, multibillion businesses, coincidentally.
I have come to the belief that Laws are approved by Money… you pay the bail, you walk, at least in the US.

Addiction and Age

In the social-media era, everything travels online.
Children as young as 6, already possess the latest model of smartphone.
Parents see them as safeguards, while in reality they’re the first means of virtual kidnapping through improper use. Visuals, of any kind. Imagine what videos of drug users or nudity can do to the brain of a 6 yo boy…
Surveys report children having watched pornography by 12 on their phones! These are secured addicts in adulthood.

Anyway, it would seem that sex-hormones are responsible for addiction in both sexes, estrogens in women, androgens in men.
From that, the consolidation of the Impersonation as in Imitation of the addicted person within the Love bond.
Close monitoring of friendships by parents is the primary prevention for Addictions in teens, these days, with males the most at risk.
Mature women can be of help in addictions by sincere care without Love bond until the counterpart shows signs of Recovery.
Family supervision is always recommended.
It’s hard to tell, though under-25 should keep distance from addicts.

After all, Addiction is a Illness

Relapse is very much associated with Guilt.
Getting rid of Guilt is the key for sobriety.
Remember, Addiction is a Illness, never be judgemental.
The human brain is naturally addictive. Substance abusers are thought to have less control over their emotions.

Addictions are isolating, territorial and antisocial.
Humans are sociable, we must interact with all kinds of people in daily life.
Substance abusers tend to withdraw from society or to stick to their group.

Cinematography is big on the addiction subject still, it can’t dissuade against.
In fact, it seems to incite more.

We still haven’t fully understood the addictive brain.
Evidence suggests our brain is subconsciously prone to imitating and exploring novelty. We don’t recognize addictive behavior until we’re addicted.

Mental illness makes it all the worse.
That would explain why vulnerable viewers imitate destructive content rather than steering clear from it.
Soothing content is not appealing to addictive personalities, it doesn’t make them numb.
All these people want, is shutting down emotional pain.
They build their own trap and hardly reach out for help alone.

Babsy, the youngest heroin victim at age 14 featured in the real-life drama ‘Christiane F.’, left a note saying “I love too much”.

Could lack of love be the cause of addiction?
Victims always have the best answers… when it is too late.

I hope readers with or without addictions, understood the compassionate approach of this post.
No inquisitive or judgemental comments are meant.
I write from personal experience and background as an EMT.
Addiction is not Crime, it’s a Cry for help.
Everybody must recognize the need to reach out of the most vulnerable.

Empathy is innate, but we must show it, unless we have a Personality Disorder.
NPD, the medical term for Narcissism, or Self-love, is rampant these New Age days where we are encouraged to be our own Gods.

Remember, Addictions are never a free choice.
And recovery is always possible.

You’re not alone.


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Resistance vs Tolerance in Neurodivergence

Pharmaceuticals’ info on Medication is always generic.

Pharmaceuticals will never disclose specific details to consumers and doctors for marketing purposes, most notably Meds-lifespan.
Patients are the first to acknowledge, after few weeks, what professionals don’t say, to their dismay.

There’s no such general consensus on the duration of medications.
Doctors know it.

The lifespan of meds as indicated by manufacturers, is calculated  ‘on body at rest’ and always averaged.
It is mostly unlikely that someone will take a medication in a state of wellbeing.

The current trend in psychopharmacology is XR, as in Extended Release.
XR is calculated in 12 hours, though in real life, the compound is often metabolized within 10 to 6 hours.
This is what defines  “Resistance”, a synonym of Metabolism.

There are hundreds factors affecting Metabolism however, let’s not overlap reactions.
Metabolism is the body Absorbing process of food, vitamins, minerals, medications… its timing varies in each individual.

Stress speeds up metabolism dramatically, the body desperate reaching-out for energy in all directions, last but not least, medication.

I see Tolerance as a bypass of Resistance, not Addiction.
When we get the full benefits of a substance, we don’t develop Tolerance.

I hear all the time from patients: “My medication stopped working”, in contrast to “I’ve been on the same med for 20 years and it works like the first day”.
Since we’re focusing on Mental Health, I ll describe the latter comment as in Mood-Stabilization, hardly achievable for working people in our constant challenging society, though not impossible.
Stable Mood is the criteria used by pharmaceuticals in order to set a med’s active status.
This is very misleading to individuals in leadership positions or students facing challenges on a regular basis. There are ordinary days when meds last longer, or hectic times when they don’t work at all. 
Cortisol and Adrenaline are the main culprits for pushing Metabolism into overdrive.

With that said, what’s the remedy?

Antipsychotics are the only compounds known to slow down Metabolism with side-effects like Weight-gain and Sedation.

More research is needed.

My takeaway is adjusting dosage according to situations.

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Neurodivergent Human Rights

Neurodivergents have a hard time displaying dignity. They are often misunderstood as apathetic.

We all have a dignity, although we often don’t pay attention to it.
We subconsciously disregard dignity in people we dislike or when overcome by anger.

“Do you have a dignity?!” is a stereotypical verbal insult when we are angry at someone.

Dignity is the most humble component of personality, not something to be exhibited.
We must see dignity in our neighbour.
When deliberately displayed, dignity becomes pride.
The winning result is knowing how best to display our personality.

In essence, dignity and pride shouldn’t be displayed, though mutually acknowledged.
Only this way we’ll develop empathy.
Empathy must be displayed towards everyone.

Unfortunately, we re heading to an increasingly individual society.
The good news is that empathy is contagious and never hurts.
Learning good listening skills is a key-step forward towards Empathy.

Empathy is always dignifying and respectful, especially towards the Neurodivergent.
The strongest antidote to discrimination in every social setting.
I should add Empowering too.
Some ‘Neurodiversity-friendly Employers’ are starting to see the real potentials in the Neurodivergent with selected vacancies.
My hope is for a Neurodivergent-friendly society.
Still a long way to go, though increasingly advocated.



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Hypersensitivity in Autism

Autistics cannot read facial expressions?!

I am very sharp at understanding body-language.
I observe facial expressions carefully when I speak, in so easily anticipating counter-outputs.

Neurotypical/Neurodivergent relationship

My wife is often embarrassed by not being able to hide her personal feelings with me. I understand within seconds if her smile is staged or genuine.
Sometimes it helps, others it causes friction. 
Not always, we want to disclose our innermost emotions.

My response is launching in an exhaustive sixth-grade, out of concern: “ Something happened? Are you depressed, angry, worried………?!” 

Until she lets out a desperate “Enough! Bugging me”.
The good news is that she appreciates my concern later on, and thanks me.

I believe the best strategy for a good neurotypical/neurodivergent relationship,  is making use of diversity in balancing emotions.




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My ways are not your ways

You are worthy. Always be open to new opportunities. Your commitment is your success. It will bear fruit in due course. Never stop searching.

In the midst of a nasty hurricane.
What better way to enter a new week and season…

I’m angry and overwhelmed. 

I m suffering at the hands of man. 
We are responsible for recent natural disasters.

I love nature.

It breaks my heart to see how man messed up with Nature, since it is my ultimate refugium peccatoribus, Latin for ‘Refuge of Sinners’.

I want to live and work in contact with nature, not in a booth embedded in a tower-block. 
Spoken like an urban animal… all my life I lived in big metropolises with the fake illusion of a more opened society, just to clash with competition and discrimination.

Surely, there are more opportunities appealing to the young, in a big city.
Healthcare may offer more options.
Culture as well.

I perused all of the above, only nature can carry on my process of healing at this stage.

As a Christian, I know God has a plan for each one of us.
But in His time… that could be the bad news… there is no time for God.

A Priest once told me: 
“Let go of all your heart s desires and make space for Him. Every time you awake is because of Him. You wouldn’t awake anymore should He have no more plans for you on this earth. Even an apparently mindless day to you, it is meaningful to Him.”

We have given a bad name to things like Waiting, i.e. Laziness.
What’s wrong with dedicating the whole day to prayer? Surely NOT wasted time. 
Truth is, I am more fruitful after a so-called ‘unproductive day.’
A regular working-day could turn out unproductive.
As far as you try your best, it’s not! 
A good manager will see your commitment. 
If they don’t, it’s not part of God’s plan for you and new doors will open.

That s how I m learning to discern my Time as an AUdhd man.
Definitely not a wasted day, despite the merciless weather.



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Revenge and Forgiveness

Neural Pathways are activated in Forgiving. 

Forgiveness has two ethical antonyms, Moral Relativism and Moral Absolutism, the former Cultural, the latter Universal. The commonality is that Forgiveness is not only a Free-Will as previously thought, but the outcome of Brain-circuitry, mainly through Emotional Amyloid Activation. Since the Amygdala is part of the Autonomous Nervous System, voluntary Activation turns into Overdrive with inconsiderate, potentially harmful, vengeful consequences towards the offender. Any feeling of Revenge must be addressed to Professionals who will contact Law-Enforcement, should the threat become intentional. The new definition of Forgiveness is letting go of Revenge. Past Hurt will lurk indefinitely in long-term memory however, erasing Revenge promotes Peace and Recovery.

So, can we still talk of Forgiveness in lay terms?

On a further level, has Forgiveness ever existed? Surely not, as redefined these days in psychology. Christianity has always defined Forgiving as  “Commanding your offender to God”, to signify that it is ultimately His exclusive responsibility. “Commanding” is all He asks from us, yet even Commanding seems insurmountable when we are consumed by Revenge.
By refusing that context, we have coined the stereotype “I will never forgive!”, whereas Commanding would be the correct term.

Basically, both psychology and religion are affirming the same concept: Relinquishing resentments.

Moral Relativism vs Moral Absolutism

The practice is aggravated by two different cultural models: Moral Relativism and Moral Absolutism. The terminology speaks for themselves. Relativism is an individual choice. Absolutism is a universal choice, leaving no room for personal opinion, a dogma linked primarily to Biblical teachings, the way to go for practicing Christians. Relativism is primarily of Agnostic origin, leaving free interpretation of what is right or sinful, strongly cultural. 
No judgement here, you know what works best for you, the goal is Relinquishing Anger.

The Brain Processing of Anger

MRI scans have shown the formation of new Neural Pathways in subjects during Commanding, a process named Neuroplasticity, meaning Brain-Rewiring.
Letting go of Revenge showed decreased Amyloid activity, promoting Emotional Regulation and Empathy in a general sense of wellbeing.
Conversely, angry subjects showed an overreacting Amygdala, resulting in feelings of counter-hurting, violence and generalized rage.
I understand Revenge doesn’t heal overnight, though Willingness is a start.

Let go of your anger

New Neural pathways start forming the very moment we are set to relinquish, making the journey gradually easier.
Everybody can do it, once we understand the Benefits over Retaining.
Counseling may be mandatory in heavy traumatized patients in the initial stages.
Family and friends should be empathetic and encouraging, avoiding unnecessary pressure. Giving testimony is the most powerful tool, Evidence is never triggering and strongly engaging.

Overall, be a good Listener and Witness.

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Buffering vs Multitasking

Buffering has multiple meanings. 

In Mental Health, it refers to positively Tricking the brain.
When all attempts fail, we are left wondering about how legitimately “cheat subconsciously” an inattentive brain.
This is Buffering in psychology.
The practice may seem unethical at first glance, whereas it ultimately benefits subjects with Attention Deficits.

ADHD is the primary symptom taken into account in Attention Deficits.
The ADHD brain never relents by processing multiple thoughts at once, not so differently from neurotypical Multitasking.
The challenge is, the neurotypical acknowledge the inadequacies of multitasking, though ADHDers fail in long-term Memory Storage while excel in short-term Information Storage.
Unfortunately, we have seen that Information is quickly forgotten.

Premium Learning is storing permanently one Memory at the time.

Stimulant medication is the first intervention in ADHD, though with its limitations: Stimulants wear off after 6/8 hours average, resulting in inattentiveness’ Rebound symptoms.

Psychologists are finding extra evidence of Music in neural activity.

Music connects the body with the mind, activating Motor Neurons, with a high potential of Rewiring, Music Therapy. 

Dance is the most visible expression of music, since it stimulates nerves at subconscious level without interfering with attention. Quite the contrary, Music proves to enhance concentration.
We can communicate through music.

In ADHD, neutral techno/upbeat sounds would remove distractions, contrary to the logic of multitasking in the neurotypical.
The reason Music does not account for Multitasking and Distraction is due to the Subconscious perception of the brain, in so doing, acting as Cerebral-vacuum for Conscious Intrusive Thoughts.

The trial was performed in ADHD students, showcasing Subject-Focus and long-term Memory Storage in a musical context.
In addition, Study-participants reported Reward and Relaxation.

I tried the method on myself successfully, henceforth I’m confidently confirming the efficacy of Music Buffering in ADHD.
I would like to hear from you in the Contact form.

Thank you and stay tuned.



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Exploitation films and dedicated fanbases in Autism/ Christiane F.

Autistics have a hard time moving on. We are often stuck in time.

Fixations are common for autistics .

Everybody has a song, a film, a concert, that marked their life however, it is easier for neurotypicals to move on, whereas autistics tend to get stuck to the first impacting event in their life.

My ‘fixation’ is British singer and actor David Bowie.

I grew up in the 80/90s with him and he s still considered the most influential glam-rock artist of all times 9 years from his passing.

Many contemporary artists carry on his legacy still, I can’t enjoy them.
I call that fixation, ‘paranoia’ in medical.

Is paranoia an illness or a passion?
Are Elitarian Aspies-ASDs ndr- autistic or not?
Aspies have a specific fixation.
In my opinion, they are not autistic.

My belief is supported by the scientific community that encourages the discontinuation of the ‘high/low functioning Autism’ definitions.
Latest research is headed towards Autism and ASD as two unrelated disorders.

But back to the article s topic: Cult movies.

I adore to death the 1981 film ‘Christiane F.’
Needless to say, David Bowie is featured in the movie.
I can watch it endlessly.
All my emotions are re-lived in that true story: a denied youth, desolation…
I don’t praise the destructive behavior of the characters involved in heavy drugs but the strong sense of camaraderie.

A movie, a song, can catch one’s momentum.
I identified in that movie.
Nothing wrong with it as far as you can move on.

I’m trapped in my past.
And I can’t get out.


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Self-awareness in Neurodivergence

Victimization and Criticism stop us from Achieving.

Self-awareness and Acceptance are the antonyms of Victimization and Criticism.
The latter are the main obstacles in ADHD, although common in Autism to a lesser extent.

Autism and ASD are two distinct disorders sharing some traits.

Autism normally requires institutionalization.
ASD was formerly known as Asperger Syndrome and is highly co-morbid with NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
The two conditions are offensively referred to as ‘Low-functioning/High-functioning Autism’, a topic I’ll discuss extensively in future articles.
Just so you know, there is only One diagnosis of Autism thus far.
ASD doesn’t require institutionalization.
I have an autistic institutionalized brother, don’t try to challenge me with populist rhetoric, I’ve been ridiculed big time on the subject, I don’t stand the test anymore, I know all too well.
Forgive the emotional outburst, I live only for my brother and wife.
My parents are long gone, the pain is often unbearable.

To date, I score predominantly on ADHD, and I am grateful for my strong empathy.
Helping others is my biggest motivation and reward.

I don’t get along well with pathological ‘know it all’ ASDers. 
Their concept of friendship is Convenience: if they need your help, they become best buddies, once achieved their goals they discard you on the spot without resentment. 
They generally excel financially, henceforth better off with addressing their obsessions to expensive life-coaches on a “see you later”, non-committal fashion.
No offence intended, I just speak from personal experience.

Commitment is very along the lines with self-awareness and acceptance. 
One doesn’t become aware in the blink of an eye. Difficult task in ADHD. 

Professionals have coined the expression “Staying on Task”.
Why are awareness and acceptance fundamental to staying on task?

The ADHD brain is constantly wandering around, stimulant medication is a key element to achieve awareness. Awareness enhances Acceptance, Motivation and Self-esteem in succession.

Motivation is the driving force behind Reward.
People who are eager to start a new workday are a rarity.
The solution is seeing the reward at the end of the day, Motivation.
If you can’t see the light, seek reward in volunteering, but don’t enter the mindless pursuit, Addiction.

Acceptance is of big help for patience, reward doesn’t come straight.
As far as you try, you are never a failure.
The more you try, the more you’ll develop Self-esteem.

Don’t be a victim.



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Bullying of Neurodivergent

Autistics are still bullied. Teachers must tackle and recognize neurodiversity in its first manifestations.

Autistics are often victims of bullying in school.

There is still no anti-Bullying law, although schools are taking serious actions, recently.

Back in my day, bullying was totally ignored and perpetrated by teachers themselves.
That made me feel an underachiever.
I wish I was born 20 years later.

My Christian faith was not that strong back then.

My worry is not being accepted by young generations.
I wish I was appreciated by my young personality, not my biological age.

I’m full of initiative, I just need people to pave the way for me.









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