Initiative / follow up

Gaining trust is challenging for neurodivergents. We are often misunderstood. It is vital setting boundaries and responsibilities in relationships between neurotypicals and neurodivergents.

My wife often tells me that I shout.
It’s not shouting for me but mirroring emotions.

I’ve been shouted at all my life.

I never get emotional with the purpose of offending.
Raising the voice is my means of protection.
My mother-in-law always shouts to my wife and I reply accordingly.

However, my wife doesn’t want me to get involved.

So here’s what happened today :
We go shopping-hate it but necessary- and I make the list as usual. 
I’m good at making lists.

Once we arrive at the mall and take the basket from the car, I spot my mother-in-law s basket and get emotional by saying “Why didn’t you tell me we have to do the shopping for your mother?!” 
Her mother loves shopping… 
“Because we were going!”

We spent an extra hour shopping, consequently.

Arrived home, I collect the laundry since it was threatening rain: “It s still wet!” Emotional again: “But it’ll rain soon! I want to dispose of the laundry! Why can’t I?!” 
“Because you shout!”

I meant “Hurry, it will rain soon!”

From today, I decided not to do things on my own initiative.

I’ll leave it to you to comment.
No offence will be taken. 

I feel downgraded for my diversity.