Emotional Dysregulation

Autistics and ADHDers have greater empathy than average. Excessive empathy leads to RSD.

RSD stands for Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, a symptom of Emotional dysregulation. 
The definition speaks for itself altogether, Dysphoria is Greek for Pain.
Empathy is an Emotion.
Emotions can be processed by Willpower in the neurotypical brain.

Emotional dysregulation has many implications, most commonly Neuronal Signal-disruptions.
Put it bluntly, the brain misinterprets or annihilates perceptions.
A notable example is an inconsiderate tv/radio volume, typical in old age.
In young adulthood, the phenomenon borders chronic Apathy.

However, let’s focus on RSD for now.

RSD is in fact the antonym of Apathy, or too much sensitivity.
Sensitivity in excess is paralysing.
The most visible attitude are healthcare workers: a good doctor, nurse, paramedic, must show empathy to patients, without getting emotionally involved.
This supports my personal theory that Sensitivity has a different set-up in Emotions.

Autistics and ADHDers strive a lot to mask for performance, a short-lived technique leading to Rejection feelings.
We make use of empathy for Acceptance, ultimately resulting in Rejection.

For once in a while, it is worth analyzing how the Neurotypical brain works.

Neurodivergents rely heavily upon their personal background, henceforth lacking impartiality of judgement, in my case being overly intrusive.

The Neurotypical brain values a lot privacy, something I interpret as lack of trust, another definition of RSD.I do recognize the evasive responses of the neurotypical: although they’re not intended for arrogance, I perceive them as painful rejection.
Even more so as Neurodiversity Advocates, we are passionately uninhibited to disclose our innermost thoughts, while expecting likewise from our interlocutors.

We don’t have to assume that neurotypicals are issue-free.
They are just smarter at dealing with problems on their own, therefore neither need help or sharing, yet another interpretation of Rejection in RSD.
‘Pretending’ to be altruistic when not necessary, is outrageous and immoral.
The stereotypical “How are you?” has become a complementary greeting, it doesn’t hurt anyone and is sufficient. They will let us know otherwise if close friends, most likely through body-language.
Know that Language is 70% bodily and 30% verbal.
Distressed body-language is a neurotypical request to reach-out.
That’s when we should calmly push-through.
Everybody has temporary Suffering.

Sensitivity is a spiritual gift, we must learn how best to use it to our benefit and neighbour’s.
In person-meetings over media-chats are preferable between Neurodivergents and Neurotypicals, whenever possible.