Living the Present is a great struggle in our fast-paced life. 
Mental Health professionals refer to Projection for Compulsive Planning.

We all project to a varying degree.
However, it turns out that long-term projecting works any good: circumstances change, so do the effects on anxiety.
I ‘m working hard on Projecting, the more I project, the more anxious I become.

The difficulty of living the present is exacerbated by social interactions.
It is not always possible being on the same line of thought, even between husband and wife.
This leads to project.

It’s not easy to make it alone in a relationship.
A good Spiritual Director is vital, personally my Priest.
I pray my wife will listen to him.
Projecting is typically of female nature: the household is still largely managed by women, whereas for most men, house is still synonym of dormitory.
Men are more likely to stand the chance.
I wouldn’t condemn planning in the short-term altogether, provided it doesn’t become Projection.

In essence, Planning is pursuing a realistic path, henceforth boosting productivity.
Projection is an abstract idea, lacking self-esteem and boosting anxiety, in brief, an Illusion.
Unfortunately, they are often perceived interchangeably in the neurodivergent, complicit their thin line.

The good news is that there is a winning strategy for Discernment: Coordination, Prioritization. 
The Neurotypical are not exempt by this subtle mental demise, they know how to separate Planning from Projection by revising a Decision.
To say, it is not impossible for the Neurodivergent to learn the method.

So it goes, according to business-advisors:
Step 1- Allow Planning and Projection to occur interchangeably.
Step 2- Select Priorities to make a realistic Plan.
Step 3- Leave Projection as an hypothetical fostering strategy, once the Plan goes in port.
The process should not take more than 2 hours, or risk interchanging info again.
That is particularly important to avoid Hyperfocus in ADHD.

Although the method was developed for Marketing purposes, it is being tested successfully in psychology.