Tag Archive for: Cultural

International Relationships and Objectification

Latest research suggests that Xenophilia is the result of ‘objectification’ from one or either parties, always unhealthy.

That international relationships require strong commitment is a fact. Neuroscientists deem race-mixing as Objectifying. Although not my case, I can’t hide the discomfort of the statement.

Objectification as in giving up one s culture for the other, a form of escapism rather than love.

The largest number of expatriates from developed countries still accounts for interracial marriages.

We have been deprived of yet the harmonious definition ‘interracial relationships’ for the pathological ‘Xenophilia’.
I bet ‘Behaviour’ will soon replaced by ‘Pathology’.
A pathology is always dysfunctional.

I’m aware of the challenges of interracial relationships, though I ll never see them as pathological.
I met my Asian wife coincidentally in my country when I lost my family and she saved my life.

I never gave up my culture in 15 years of marriage.
In fact, I value my culture even more as an expat.

Scientists should emphasize what the real challenges are.

Xenophilia goes oftentimes hand in hand with Xenophobia.
We have given a bad name to the latter, related to racism.

Modern-day xenophobia is very much the Fear of the host from the expatriates, not hatred.

I hope the term Xenophobia will be wiped out once and for all in favour of peaceful resolutions like interracial relations.
And that neuroscientists would stop pretending to be linguists.

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Communication’s barriers

Face-to-face communication is always more effective. 

Speaking the same language with people of different races is translated culturally. Communication is amazingly 70% bodily and only 30% verbal. Don’t confuse Globalization with Communication. Learn the culture of the people before jumping to conclusions, even more so in our technological age.

Communication is not just about language.
It’s about culture first and foremost.
The same word in the same language is conceptualized in different backgrounds.

Linguists define the practice ‘Inculturation’.

Today I was explaining the meaning of ‘neurodiversity’ to my wife.
After a heated discussion, we came to the conclusion that we were talking of the exact same thing.

Globalization is not Conceptualization.
This is where social media fail.
The same language speaks differently to different cultures.

Speaking in person is always preferable.

When communicating online, it is important to run a pre-screening on the country we are going to exchange with.


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Compromise and ADHD

Reward is an indispensable component of my daily life.

Work is the most common form of reward, these days.
The neurotypical spend more time at work than at home, sadly.

I like my job however, reward runs in a different direction for me: I need my post-work reward.

Matching work with entertainment entails two main obstacles: preferences and time, even more so, in an interracial marriage.
You’ll have to assume that work and reward go hand-in-hand in this country where I live with my wife.
I fully love my wife, despite differences exist in all couples.
Respectfully arguing is constructive and inevitable.

Our timetables are very changeable. 

Home serves as relaxation to me, Homework is out of the question.

For my wife, home is a personal clinic: she would organize for the next day, soak in the bathtub for two hours, hit the bed to watch a movie at 10pm, my sleeping time, since I need at least 8 hours of rest.

Solution???
COMPROMISE = Respectfully Arguing= one night for you, one night for me.
And a lot of patience.
The only Alternative is staying Single.

No Solution is better or worse, cultural and religious beliefs are the main motivators in living’ status.
The general stereotype is still the Family as in Marriage.
All religions support Marriage in Family. 
Many young people support cohabitation, recently.

Avoiding judgement is paramount in the topic.
Giving advice is always a wise move.




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