Tag Archive for: Perseverance

Persistency is better than Consistency in Neurodivergence

Going against the odds is the Symphony of Me.

I am learning to be myself in the midst of the storm.
I am releasing all pressure.
I am capable to take my decisions.
Peace is achievable only by helping others.
We can’t love if we don’t love ourselves for the glory of others.

Storms remind me of these Godly affirmations.
I look forward to the future, because every storm will pass.
The Past won’t haunt me anymore.
I dropped the Mask.

It is our duty to spread the Truth.

Spreading any Truth can be either convenient or inconvenient.
Some new theories in Neuroscience claim that the brain always knows what is right or wrong. 
We take decisions at our own risk, even more so in ADHD.
Knowing the Truth is always having the answer ready.
People can choose to Reject the Truth, not acknowledging it.

Neuroscientists have studied and named this Brain Pattern.

The Paradox Effort 

The Brain recognizes Worthiness through its Reward Mechanism fueled by Dopamine.
We can define Convenience as Paradox Effort: individuals are willing to co-operating, since they see the Light at the end of the tunnel.
Conversely, Inconvenience is associated to Rejection, or perceived as Wasted Effort.
Since the brain is naturally wired to Worthiness, we must stand the ground and persevere into spreading the Truth without fear.

Peace be with you all…


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Honesty in Mental Illness

A common stigma in Mental Health is that sufferers are Chronic Liars, a very offensive misconception.

It doesn’t take a lot of effort for educated people to discern that the mentally ill can’t lie.
Their ‘Distorted Reality’ is Shame, a desperate attempt at Protection.

The Neurotypical should be supportive towards Shame, rather than accusatory.
Still a long way to go.

The bad news is that Shame evolves with time. 
The last stage is Isolation.
Although it is never too late to reach-out, the more opportunities are lost both professionally and relationally.

I would also suggest sufferers to take action by self-educating.
I said multiple times that Masking is a short-lived failing technique.
You have nothing to lose by disclosing your mistakes asap. Even the toughest boss will be more sympathetic in the short run than in constantly hiding.
Easy said than done.

There are techniques to gather courage.

You’ll notice that I refrain from using the word “Lie” by referring to synonyms like Shame, Hiding, Protection, Mistakes, Masking, Disclosures, Timing… these unproductive Behaviors are not malicious Lies, despite perceived as such by most Neurotypical.

Buying Time is vicious and exacerbating.
Drop the Mask immediately.
Just think that the more you wait, the worse the consequences.

You have only to benefit from Honesty.
Honesty is always valued. It comes with Humility and Commitment, particularly in the workforce. 

Layoff is possible, although to your Wellness, typically good referenced for a more specific position supported by your employer, in this instance. 
It meant that job was detrimental to you and other more suitable doors will open.
It happened to me, with my Supervisor addressing me to my current satisfactory job directly and a warm shake-hand.
Job-centers have Disability departments offering Job-seeker s Allowances.

DON’T PANICK.

You’re never a failure as long as you try.
You know what medication works best for your disinhibitions, talk to your psychiatrist into adding a extra pill just to abate Shame for that new job-interview.
You’re not alone. You can do it.

And may God s love be with you 

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