Intense emotions in ADHD

ADHDers always skyrocket the initial Response to disappointment, just to regret it later.
NT s interpret the reaction as uncontrollable, scary, dangerous Anger-Outburst, inevitably.
Put it bluntly, several feelings are expressed in a single inflated Emotion.
We know why.

The Prefrontal Execution of Thoughts in ADHD

ADHDers don’t elaborate their Thoughts, they act on Instinct to Fear, Preservation, Challenge.

They think their loud Cry for Help will solve all issues at once, targeting the peak of the iceberg. 
They don’t consider that the peak of ice will avalanche backwards towards them with all their negative amplified energy.

That being said, we’re talking Emotionally.
Some pseudo-theories circulate that firing multiple Emotions at the same time turn into Anger.
I confidently dismiss the notion.
I believe in the inability to separate Emotions in ADHD, turning them in Emotional Outburst.
The general definition of Outburst is a sudden, loud, uncontrollable display of Feelings.
I don’t consider Anger a feeling. Violence, maybe.

The Relationship Between ASD Traits and Moral Harassment

The intense fixations and rigid routines characteristic of ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) can sometimes cause friction with those around them. Even without any malicious intent, this behavior can be misunderstood as “moral harassment,” which can emotionally overwhelm the other person.

When you’re unintentionally misunderstood as engaging in “moral harassment”.

• Strong convictions and black-and-white thinking : My routines and personal rules are non-negotiable, and I feel intense stress when they are disrupted. As a result, I may end up harshly criticizing others or forcing my views on them.
• Difficulty in reading emotions : Because I have trouble picking up on the nuances in people’s expressions and words, I sometimes end up hurting others by repeatedly saying things that come across as cold or insensitive.
• I have no intention of controlling the other person : The key difference from typical emotional abuse is that there is no underlying malicious intent to “control the other person and gain the upper hand.”

My wife often tells me, “This is moral harassment.”
I have absolutely no intention of doing that. It seems that when I just want to get my point across, or when I’m feeling anxious or scared, I tend to raise my voice.

What are your concerns in your marriage?