Tag Archive for: Self-esteem

I pretend to be my God’s value

I don’t need Validation by Full-Disclosure of my entire existence.

I really despise giving up my whole identity for credibility only.
My friends know my background and trust me for what I do.

Genuine expertise is easily detectable by vocabulary.
In fact, Mental Health professionals don’t need a personal blog.
They have their practice website.
Of course, they are first ranked by Search Engines.

I always elaborate latest Research with personal knowledge and experience.
Those are my credentials, I don’t need to say where I went to school online.

 Validation is my Self-esteem.

Self-esteem is Acceptance for whom we are.
Comparing is the most destructive behavior.
I was falling in that trap when I learned that Mental Health blogs are rejected by Advertisers.
Until I realized that I write for my neurodivergent friends and institutions, ultimately.
I am free!
Did you know that Dopamine is dependent upon Acetylcholine?
I’ll tell you later in my humble capacity of Advocate, the reason some people are always late, British humour by all means… Humour is an outstanding factor of Reward and Learning.
How cold Academic language is.
My renowned Italian biologist friend and professor, is a ‘Science Comedian’!

Web-blogs are the new CV.

These days, most Employers ask for a personal web-blog in place of CV/Resume’, particularly in the Entertainment Industry, like Yachting.
Medical personnel with Mental Health skills are highly sought after.
Independent platforms are the most eloquent, natural, reliable sources of knowledge, contrary to overly impressive CV s.
I am not set for Impressions, though Honesty.

So, what did I learn today about Dopamine?
Reward, Motivation, Memory, Motor Skills, are long established.
However, the neurotransmitter and neuromodulator Acetylcholine claims silently its axe upon the sleeve, not as in Competition but rather Ally.
Giant partnering with Giant. Long story short.

Timing

When Acetylcholine levels drop, Dopamine promotes Learning.
When they are released together, Dopamine promotes Motor skills.
A typical example of Cognitive Collaboration over Competition.
The Brain always knows better.

Associated pathologies like Parkinson’s and Depression would result from Timing disruptions, calculated in milliseconds.

This will further consolidate the switch to Hospital Treatments in Psychiatry.

I shall assume my Acetylcholine levels were low today.

Disclaimer:
I emphasize personal experience as usual.
Consult your doctor for Medical Advice.




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I am what I am

 Competition brings no Happiness. I am enough.

If we are made at the image of God, it means we are Enough.

Why conform to Societal Expectations?

Globalization is the worst scheme possible.

It is pure Competition, no help whatsoever.

Who can benefit from Competition?

Nobody. Competition is destroying our neighbor for Success, whilst staining us with Envy.

We’re all losers in this game.

Co-operation is the way to go, always benefiting all of us.
In fact, Sport is not Competition per se, each athlete is worth their efforts.
This is Teamwork.

I’m often ridiculed by people around me for my opinions.
Sometimes, I’m so disappointed that I smack my head to get rid of negativity.
It’s not easy to go against the current.
I’m a human with doubts like anyone else.
Only God reassures me of my right doings through Prayer.
I just ask for Essentials.

We all deserve Happiness.

Jesus never promised a Trouble-free life, although we can experience Happiness walking with Him.
Money alone is not Happiness.
Even non-believers know it.

I can find Happiness even in the midst of the storm, right where I am in this challenging moment.
Reward will arrive in due course.
I am enough, no better or worse than my neighbor.

Don’t allow yourself to be deprived of your Self-esteem.
Self-esteem defines you.

You are enough.




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Cognitive Distortions

‘Cognitive distortions’ is the definition of Irrational Thoughts in Psychology. Anxiety is the general perception, although the Labeling trend of these days attributes the perception to ADHD, Autism and OCD exclusively, wrongly so.

Medicine is being spoilt by the day, despicably switching from humanitarian Mission to openly downstream profiteering Business.

The predictable future of Healthcare is a fully private funded system with Medical Insurances drawn into bankruptcy.

Specialists are highly competitive and wary of Insurance, indulging in a real Fees-Campaign in order to get “clients”.
The implications are enormous in terms of reliability and co-operation between practitioners.

Mental Health is increasingly becoming individualistic.

The title “Psychologist” is being replaced with “Therapist, Coach, Counselor”, each offering their services to a specific mental condition, coincidentally shared by the therapist.

Nowadays, one can become a “Certified Coach” by taking countless Online-courses, mostly scams.
I don’t buy into that. I stick to psychoanalytic Psychiatrists, to be on the safe MD side.

“Clients” pay astronomical fees to share their feelings with private Therapists whom they refer to by first name.
The danger of these ‘self-proclaimed professionals’ is they’re trained to tell their  ‘friends’ what they want to hear.

Everybody, neurotypical or neurodivergent, have Cognitive Distortions, in my experience, a kind of Sympathetic Nervous System’ s defensive mechanism.
We all have what real psychologists call ‘Filter Neural Lens’, amplifying Paranoia.

In the Neurotypical, Cognitive Distortions are easily balanced by the Parasympathetic Nervous System. 
In the Neurodivergent, they are over amplified.

All it takes is scrolling the Medical Web, thus being bombarded with hundreds Ads these likes:

“Shyla, ADHD therapist on ADHD. Competitive pricing and compassionate approach. First session free.”
“Amy, I overcame OCD and want to hear from you. Regain control over your emotions.”
“Charlie, your Bipolar Disorder expert.”

Cognitive Distortions are dealt individually in every  ‘specific practice’.
Back in the day, they were addressed to any Clinical Psychologist.

Paranoia is the medical term for Persecution, to say that Cognitive Distortions are cursing thoughts about how we perceive judgment.

No one likes to be judged. Discerning wrong judgement is a distortion.

Right Discernment abates Judgment and enhances Self-esteem.




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Self-awareness in Neurodivergence

Victimization and Criticism stop us from Achieving.

Self-awareness and Acceptance are the antonyms of Victimization and Criticism.
The latter are the main obstacles in ADHD, although common in Autism to a lesser extent.

Autism and ASD are two distinct disorders sharing some traits.

Autism normally requires institutionalization.
ASD was formerly known as Asperger Syndrome and is highly co-morbid with NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
The two conditions are offensively referred to as ‘Low-functioning/High-functioning Autism’, a topic I’ll discuss extensively in future articles.
Just so you know, there is only One diagnosis of Autism thus far.
ASD doesn’t require institutionalization.
I have an autistic institutionalized brother, don’t try to challenge me with populist rhetoric, I’ve been ridiculed big time on the subject, I don’t stand the test anymore, I know all too well.
Forgive the emotional outburst, I live only for my brother and wife.
My parents are long gone, the pain is often unbearable.

To date, I score predominantly on ADHD, and I am grateful for my strong empathy.
Helping others is my biggest motivation and reward.

I don’t get along well with pathological ‘know it all’ ASDers. 
Their concept of friendship is Convenience: if they need your help, they become best buddies, once achieved their goals they discard you on the spot without resentment. 
They generally excel financially, henceforth better off with addressing their obsessions to expensive life-coaches on a “see you later”, non-committal fashion.
No offence intended, I just speak from personal experience.

Commitment is very along the lines with self-awareness and acceptance. 
One doesn’t become aware in the blink of an eye. Difficult task in ADHD. 

Professionals have coined the expression “Staying on Task”.
Why are awareness and acceptance fundamental to staying on task?

The ADHD brain is constantly wandering around, stimulant medication is a key element to achieve awareness. Awareness enhances Acceptance, Motivation and Self-esteem in succession.

Motivation is the driving force behind Reward.
People who are eager to start a new workday are a rarity.
The solution is seeing the reward at the end of the day, Motivation.
If you can’t see the light, seek reward in volunteering, but don’t enter the mindless pursuit, Addiction.

Acceptance is of big help for patience, reward doesn’t come straight.
As far as you try, you are never a failure.
The more you try, the more you’ll develop Self-esteem.

Don’t be a victim.



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