Finding the right support for autistics is vital. Fear can override us and stop us in our quests. Standpoints are supposed to serve Purposes. My purpose is going back home in Europe. Purposes come not without a price: money, economy, family, are just some of the obstacles that keep us stuck.Procrastination too gets in the […]
Just follow your heart. Hope is a big multifaceted word: it reminisces happiness, sadness, hopelessness. I switch in-between. I know it can be a chemical imbalance-I have co-morbid ADHD-though it s mainly circumstantial to me: my only hope is going back to my country with my wife.The chance is 100% economy dependent. Economy is very volatile […]
Nostalgia is one of the main weather related factors to me. Climate change brings me back in time. I dread doomsday. Monday, ‘Transition time’ . I’m in anguish, complicit the Asian monsoon season. The average Asian typhoon wreaks havoc 2-3 days. This is expected to gain energy for over a week. Scientists blame global warming and faster […]
Changing location has the potential of adopting a new approach to life. In my case, home. I’m not in the clear mindset to make life-changing decisions outside my comfort zone. I’m very nostalgic these days. That raises the question whether memories are of any good. To me, they are good motivationally but also depressing. Only ECT […]
I just celebrated my birthday and wish I could sink. I see no purpose in Celebrating birthdays by stereotypes: cake, blowing candles as reminders of age, clinging glasses, and countless dreaded pictures. The bad news is that birthdays are normally social events organized by friends and family in a surprising, unexpected fashion to which we […]
Conflict-avoidance reverses Anger to Validation. I’ve been talking a lot about Triggers and Defensiveness. It is clear that Defensiveness is a byproduct of Anger. Some psychiatrists see Defensiveness and Anger as a single emotion. Counter-validating is not giving up your standpoints, it’s a way of avoiding triggers as part of Anger management.We can keep Anger at bay, […]
Anger can take many forms, although it is oftentimes the result of trauma and abuse. Anger is very individual. To me, it s primarily Envy and Regret. I regret growing up in the 80s when teachers didn’t have any mental-health training to recognise Autism and ADHD. I envy today’s children who are identified with learning […]
Gaining trust is challenging for neurodivergents. We are often misunderstood. It is vital setting boundaries and responsibilities in relationships between neurotypicals and neurodivergents. My wife often tells me that I shout.It’s not shouting for me but mirroring emotions. I’ve been shouted at all my life. I never get emotional with the purpose of offending.Raising the voice […]
It’s best for neurodivergents to let trusted people do the first step. Yesterday I relaxed with my wife after an emotional weekend. You’ll remember my resolution of avoiding to start tasks on my own.→ ASD/ADHD vs Neurotypical Standards The logic is, if my wife takes the initiative, I will comply without debates.I’m anti-conflict by nature. […]
We are all unique and worthy. That can lead to confrontation. However, we can change confrontation to peaceful resolution with a funny sense of humor. So I’ve been told I m not good at house-chores by my wife: men and women have different standards in house-chores. Laundry is one of mine, a time-dependent chore.I collect […]
