There are anti-bullying techniques. Do not underestimate yourself. The Autonomous Nervous System is composed by the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Systems which literally FIGHT with each-other in Autism, whereas they BALANCE each-other in Neuro Normal Merit Standards. The ‘Fight or Flee Sympathetic effect’ is predominant in Autism.There’s little the Parasympathetic System can do once we’re upset.Avoiding triggers […]
Autistics are often misunderstood. That can lead to verbal abuse and meltdown. Most of the time, we just want to be heard. Listening without judgement takes time and effort though it abates conflict. I suffer for others and I am misunderstood for that.People think I want to be always in control.It’s my way of prioritizing, […]
Triggers are the precursors of Anger. Anger is the first reaction to disappointment. Yesterday I was very disappointed.However, I’m well aware of the uselessness of anger.Why do we get angry?Anger is a Sympathetic Nervous System’ s reaction to stress and Triggers.Triggers-Stress-Sympathetic Nervous System.The bad news is that the Sympathetic Nervous System is Autonomous, meaning we have no control over […]
Trust requires lots of commitment. We can only trust genuinely by ‘Entrusting’ our neighbor to God who will remove our doubts and misconceptions. By trusting God, we will trust fully our entrusted neighbor. God never lies. Trust doesn’t come easy.In fact, it’s not of human nature. Friendship is our interpretation of Trust, although two different […]
Attempted suicides are Cries for help. Perpetrators don’t want to die, they want to be heard. It is important to recognize the signs. How many times we desperately reach-out to hotlines and charities for help.Whether our desperate thoughts are taken into consideration or not, the sole reaching out to organizations outside the family, is the […]
Distances are not easy to manage. If technology is not your forte, they can become even more triggering. Sad day. Brother’s birthday who lives far away. I must arrange a Skype session in different time-zones. I suffer for my neighbor.I’m panicking right now.A tornado is approaching to make things worse. I’m considering whether to call […]
Medication is indispensable to me in the current circumstances. I hate waiting.It’s an almost imposed, consuming rule that we have little control over.I always want to be in control of myself.I’m waiting to go home, possibly the worst consuming wait.I feel like in exile. A prisoner. I took one Seroquel today to calm down, instead […]
Living in an unfamiliar society is a big deal for autists. Anger and resentment towards local population are common, although we don’t mean it. Sadly, we are often misunderstood as arrogant ‘Know-it-all’. We must control our emotions when we speak. The following is the unedited transcript I sent to my local community leader. Dear Sir […]
Extreme Hot/Cold temperatures can cause Mental and Physical pain. They also affect how meds work. The best results are achieved by the right Combination of agonist and antagonist compounds under the circumstances. Pain is always unpleasant, let’s not sugarcoat it, whether physical or emotional.The neurodivergent may be more aware of Emotional Pain, whereas I believe […]
Replacing negative emotions with Self-care. Rewiring works by Associations.I’ve been talking extensively about Brain-Rewiring and how the therapy is being updated to Brain-Resetting. Whilst sharing the same goals, Resetting works on Self-denial of the Past.I support traditional Rewiring in that regard.I’m not fond of any kind of pseudoscience, especially since it is strongly linked to […]
